Best Aphrodisiacs To Indulge In

It’s true: summer is nearly over. Long nights, fruity cocktail hours, and warm weather will have to wait until next year, but your sex life doesn’t. Aphrodisiacs have long been a way of heating things up in the bedroom, and adding a new element to anyone’s sex life.

Intrigued? Here are some of the best aphrodisiacs to try before the summer is out.

What Are Aphrodisiacs?

Put simply, an aphrodisiac is something that increases your sex drive. Named after the Aphrodite- the Greek goddess of love- they’re perfect for enhancing an already mind-blowing sexual experience, for trying something new, or for boosting your sex drive on the days you might not be feeling it as much.

Erotic Massages

When people are consumed by work stresses, it can be hard to create the perfect mood for sex. One of the best ways of letting these stresses melt away is by having a massage- but that’s not all they’re good for. In fact, erotic massages are a great way of letting stress go and giving you a boost in the bedroom.

There are a number of options on the market to try, like Durex Play Sensual 2 in 1 Massage (£9.99, kinky.co.uk), Stimulating 2 in 1 Massage (£9.99, kinky.co.uk), or Aloe Vera 2 in 1 Massage (£9.99, kinky.co.uk). Create a more immersive experience by introducing taste and smell into the mix with Shiatsu Edible Oil (£14.99, kinky.co.uk).

Edible Aphrodisiacs

Edible aphrodisiacs are the most popular kind of aphrodisiac. People have always claimed that food like chocolate, oysters, and even pomegranates can do wonders for their sex lives. Some of these foods are filled with herbal aphrodisiacs that are proven to help. The sex boost here might not come just from consuming the food, but by bringing it into the bedroom.

Unless you want to get food on your sheets, avoid the mess by trying Skins Hotshots for Him (£6.99, kinky.co.uk), or Skins Hotshot for Her (£6.99, kinky.co.uk).

The Natural Option

With the popularity of healthy choices rising, some of these wellness ideas have been making their way into the bedroom. When it comes to aphrodisiacs, many people have been swearing by natural remedies for centuries:

  • Maca. Maca is one of the most well-known herbal aphrodisiacs. Unlike most natural options, it does more to increase desire than any physical effects.
  • Ginseng. Boasting more of an effect on men than on women, numerous studies have shown how Ginseng promotes blood flow to the genitals. This can help with issues like slowed erections and libido loss.
  • Ginkgo. This herb has been known since the 1980s as promoting blood flow to the brain and genitals. When taken every day for two years, both men and women can see improvements in issues like libido loss, reaching orgasm, and erectile dysfunction.

If you’d like to try a product with various herbal aphrodisiacs in, add a few drops of Spanish Fly Liquid (£9.95, kinky.co.uk) to a drink before sex, or Spanish Fly Extra (£12.50, kinky.co.uk) for an added boost.

Choosing Your Aphrodisiacs

There isn’t a one size fits all policy with aphrodisiacs. What works for one couple might not work for another. If you’ve had an uneventful experience the first time around, don’t let that put you off trying another option next time. You never know; chocolate might not get you in the mood, but massage oil will. The key here is to be open-minded, but also never to do something that doesn’t make you comfortable. If you’re feeling happy with your choice, your confidence can be one of the best aphrodisiacs of all.

Blowjobs | 4 Ways To Give One With A Condom

Despite what you might’ve learnt in sex ed, condoms are for a lot more than just bananas and intercourse. Barriers during oral play, such as blowjobs, aren’t something we hear talked about often, and while it is a different experience with a condom, it can still be really sexy.

Find a Condom That Works for You

There are countless condoms out there, and not all condoms are lacklustre and awkward. Between the tastes of the wearer and the person whose mouth is on it, there’s a lot to consider when choosing a condom. For example, the person wearing it is going to want to make sure the size and thickness are compatible with what they’re looking for; a thinner condom is going to transmit more sensation while a thicker one will help delay ejaculation.

You’ll also want to think about taste and material. Does either of you have a latex allergy? Are colour and texture important to you? Do you want flavoured condoms (£2.99, kinky.co.uk)?

The best way to find the right condom for you is to experiment and try them all out. It means more oral play, so who’s complaining?

Add Lube to Your Blowjobs

It’s amazing what a few drops of lube can do!

Pop some inside the condom to help it slide against the head of the penis. This will increase sensation and, if you add a Tingle Lube (£5.99, kinky.co.uk), heighten sensitivity. Use it sparingly, however, you risk the condom slipping off mid-blowjobs.

In addition to lube, keep a drink by the bed and take sips now and again. As well as making things a little easier for you, the cool liquid will feel great against his penis.

Take it Slow

There’s no doubt that oral with a wrapper will feel different for you both. The added friction makes it harder for the cock to slide easily down your throat, and the lack of precum doesn’t help.

This doesn’t mean that the show can’t go on. Take your time and incorporate hands to do some of the work for you. Wrap one hand around the base of his shaft and move it up and down in time with the movement for your mouth.

Regular Rhythm Does the Blowjobs

Keeping a regular rhythm while giving blowjobs helps build to orgasm, but to avoid both of you getting bored by endlessly bobbing your head up and down, why not add a steady rhythm to keep things moving?

Start by performing eight shallow sucks – just taking the tip of his penis between your lips. Then, treat him to seven shallow sucks and one deeper one. After that, give him six shallow sucks and two deeper ones, and so on.

As the anticipation builds for more frequent and deeper blows, he’ll be soon ready to burst! Plus, it gives you some time to get used to the feeling of oral play with a condom.

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