Five Reasons You Should Try Prostate Play

Put off by prostate massage? Well, you’re not alone…

The prostate is a walnut sized, semen-storing gland located at the root of the penis. The P-spot, also sometimes known as the male G-spot, is the area of the prostate that can be felt and stimulated. Research suggests that regular prostate massage reduces the risk of prostatitis, prostate cancer, symptoms of erectile dysfunction, and genital pain. Continue reading

Top 5 BDSM Toys Guaranteed to Spice Things Up

Sex toys are synonymous with the world of BDSM. They spice up our play sessions and offer endless avenues of pleasure and pain. For those who are new to BDSM, the amount of equipment on offer can be overwhelming at first, but they are vital to your enjoyment. Using toys in combination with BDSM play is guaranteed to intensify your session. 

Safety First

When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s important to take extra care. Never make unrealistic demands of your body (or your partners), and always go for props and toys that you are both comfortable with and can ease yourself into slowly. Listen to your body and/or your partner and stop immediately if either of you experience any pain – this is when a safe word comes in handy. Always use plenty of lube, making sure it’s compatible with your chosen toy.

1) (Light) Bondage

Restraints are the first thing which comes to mind when enticing people to explore the world of BDSM. The act of restraining your partner can offer new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection. If you’ve decided you want to try bondage, you may feel a bit lost in terms of what restraints would be perfect for you and your partner.
Beginners to the BDSM world should focus on restraints that have safety precautions in place to begin with. Most handcuffs come with safety release, like the Furry Fun Cuffs (£12.50, kinky.co.uk). If you opt for rope, ties, leather cuffs etc., always keep medical shears nearby (and within reach).

2) Blindfolds

Recent research has concluded that most men get turned on by what they see, which is why the percentage of men who enjoy voyeurism is almost three times more than that of women. On the other hand, women are most aroused by sensual touch. It’s the feeling of intimacy that gets women in the mood – a massage, gentle all over caressing, and the feeling of silk on the skin are just some examples. Introducing a blindfold to the bedroom is often a win-win situation. He gets to see her in all her glory, and her senses are heightened, allowing her to focus on being intimately touched.

Sensory deprivation is a significant part of BDSM play. Removing one sense heightens the others, allowing you to explore scenarios through means you usually wouldn’t. Additionally, blindfolds can be quickly removed in case of emergency and there are no pain implications to wearing one, so they serve as a good starting item for a beginner who wants to experience sensory deprivation. There’s a hundred items lying around your house that can be doubled as a blindfold. A pair of tights, a scarf, a tie. Or why not opt for an inexpensive blindfold, such as the Tease and Please blindfold (£4.99, kinky.co.uk), and turn it up a notch?

3) Flogger

Explore your dominant or submissive side with a leather flogger. These won’t be as hard-core as whips or a rubber flogger, but instead will strike the perfect balance between pleasure and pain.

Floggers with narrow and few tails deliver a biting sensation, while those with thick and many tails produce thuddy impact. Suede floggers, like Fetish Fantasy Beaded Metal Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk), deliver manageable but noticeable thuds, so they’re a good choice for beginners; more experienced players who are after some pain might look into leather options like Hidden Desire Whip Xavier (£49.99, kinky.co.uk). The leather strands can be used to gently tickle and stimulate your partner’s body (with a blindfold it can be part of sensory deprivation play) — or they can deliver a swift sting with just a flick of the wrist.

4) Nipple Clamps and Suckers

Nipples are often an overlooked source of pleasure that, when done correctly, can lead to sensational orgasms. Playing with nipple clamps not only results in increased sensitivity, it also delivers an incredible natural high, and provides a real taste of submissive satisfaction.

For those who want to try their hands at nipple play but aren’t quite ready to experiment with nipple torture, nipple suckers are great for beginners. The Vacuum Twist Suckers (£19.99, kinky.co.uk), are manual suction devices that are placed over the nipple and manipulated to suction out the air, drawing blood into the nipple and increasing sensitivity. Simply twist to adjust the suction and experiment with varying sensations. For better suction, apply a little water based lube on the rim of the sucker for an even better seal.

When you’re ready to take it up a notch, clover clamps are aimed at advanced nipple enthusiasts. The Fetish Fantasy Japanese Clover Clamps (£14.99, kinky.co.uk), are butterfly style nipple clamps fitted with textured rubber pads for extra comfort. They grip tightly to the nipple and are adjusted through gently tugging the string found at the base of the nipple clamps, which increases the tension and tightens the grip.

5) Anal Beads

Anal beads are a great way for beginners to experience anal sex gradually and gently. They can be used alone for unique anal stimulation, during masturbation or intercourse.

Anal beads generally consist of multiple spheres or balls attached together. Most anal beads start off small and gradually get larger as you move down the chain, allowing you to enjoy more and more length and girth as you become more comfortable. The great thing about using anal beads: they feel good on the way in and

A Beginner’s Guide To Limits

“Limits” refers to an acceptable range of play for an individual, and is something that should be discussed when negotiating a scene. It ensures that all the rights, needs, and requirements are clearly understood. Some decide to write down their limits in the shape of a contract, which assures that both partners fully understand the limitations and acceptable forms of play. Others prefer to simply discuss and plan the scene in detail beforehand. Before entering into any relationship, it is important to clearly communicate and listen to each other carefully. Continue reading

The Top Five Tools For Impact Play

Roll down those trousers, guys! You’re in for a real treat.

Impact play is a more extreme form of spanking; an intense pounding that is often done with the intent to cause deep tissue bruising and leave markings. Not only does it increase blood flow to the area in question, thereby making it more sensitive, it stimulates the nerve endings and releases waves of pleasurable endorphins. Due to its recent popularity, there are plenty of specialised implements available including; floggers, whips, rods, switches, and canes to keep you busy! Continue reading

A Guide To BDSM Aftercare

All scenes, no matter what the focus is, should include responsible aftercare. Once a BDSM play scene has ended, it hasn’t really ended – the intimate and emotional connections will still be there, and so aftercare is important for everyone involved. Aftercare doesn’t need to be overly sentimental or grand, it just needs to be an intentional display of appreciation and acknowledgment that will ensure you and your partner return to an everyday state of mental, emotional, and physical steadiness. Continue reading

A Beginner’s Guide to Spanking and Flogging

It’s easy to see why spanking and flanking has become such a hit. It can take you on a journey of sensations from warm and gentle to thrilling spikes of pleasure and orgasmic release. Not only does it increase the blood flow to the nearby genitals and cause a spike in adrenaline, it also stimulates the nerve endings and increases sexual arousal.
If you like the idea of mixing pain and pleasure, make sure you have the right tools to whip your partner into a frenzy! Continue reading