A Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex

People aren’t so anal when it comes to sex. In fact, according to The National Survey of Family Growth in 2016, 78% of men and women have tried it at least once. Why? We all know that men have a prostrate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but there’s more to anal penetration than just that. The anus is also packed with nerve ending that are receptive to stimulation and can result in anal orgasms for both men and women. Continue reading

How To Use Anal Beads

Anal beads are a great way for beginners to experience anal sex gradually and gently. They can be used alone for unique anal stimulation, during masturbation or intercourse. Anal beads generally consist of multiple spheres or balls attached together. Most anal beads start off small and gradually get larger as you move down the chain, allowing you to enjoy more and more length and girth as you become more comfortable. The great thing about using anal beads: they feel good on the way in and on the way out! Continue reading

A Beginners Guide To Anal Sex!

People aren’t so anal when it comes to sex. A recent study by the National Health Statistics concluded that 36% of women and 44% of men have tried some form of anal play, which suggests that couples are becoming more open to the idea of anal stimulation. Why? We all know that men have a prostrate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but there’s more to anal penetration than just that. The anus is also packed with nerve ending that are receptive to stimulation and can result in anal orgasms for both men and women. Continue reading

Butt Plugs – A Guide

Butt plugs are a great way for beginners to experience anal sex gradually and gently. Depending on the model, butt plugs can be used alone for unique stimulation, during intercourse or masturbation. Finally, check the quality of the product. These anal toys are conical shaped, starting small but gradually widening in size, allowing you to enjoy more and more girth as you get more comfortable. Designed specifically for anal play, a butt plug with gently stretch the anus and stimulate the sensitive nerve endings for out-of-this-world pleasure. Continue reading

The Best Anal Sex Positions

Anal sex is just like marmite, you will either love it or hate it, but until you try you’ll never know. When it comes to comfortable, pleasurable anal sex, the smallest of adjustments can make a huge difference. Many assume that the same positions that are good for vaginal sex will be good for anal too, but that isn’t always the case.
It’s impossible to over-emphasise the necessary components for safe and satisfying anal play; communication, relaxation and plenty of lube! Continue reading

Anal Sex – An Introduction

With over a third of Westerners having tried it, anal penetration is a kink that is becoming more popular than ever in the bedroom. Nevertheless, couples are still missing out on the joy of anal sex and the pleasure that’s experienced through anal penetration. When undertaken correctly, anal sex can really enhance your sex life. The anus is packed with nerve ending that are receptive to stimulation and can result in anal orgasms for both men and women. This introduction will walk you through anal preparation and penetration, helping you achieve an exciting and enjoyable anal sex life.

It Starts with Communication

Anal sex should never be introduced by trying to ‘sneaking it in’. If you’re intending to slip a finger, toy, or more inside your partner – they should be prepared and able to consent prior to the act. If you’re partner has no idea what you have in store for them, they are likely to tense up which is likely to result in pain, injuries, and no sex for a week (if you’re lucky).

Cleanliness is Important

When it comes to anal sex, one of the biggest turn offs is the thought of the mess that can occur post-penetration. However, a little preparation will ensure that you and your partner don’t experience any horrors. For anyone looking to experiment with anal sex, we recommend buying an Anal Douche. It’s a simple pump device that is filled with (cold) water and used to squirt water into the anus. This will loosen any debris and ensure your passage is clear. Douching takes a little getting used to, but it’s worth it – it can really enhance your anal play.

To keep things super clean, we recommend using condoms on yourself and on your toys. This is even more important if you plan on anal and vaginal penetration in one session. Anal to vaginal penetration, without switching condoms between sex acts, can result in her developing toxic shock syndrome.

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Don’t Forget the Lube

Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. You may be able to achieve penetration without lube, but it is likely to be painful, and the friction can cause internal injuries which may later become infected. To avoid such unpleasantness, always lubricate the anus, penises, toys, and fingers before attempting to penetrate. The market is full of anal lubes; from an ultra-thick long-lasting lube such as Anal Joy Lovin Lubricant (£ 10.00, Kinky.co.uk) to flavoured anal lubes such as Master Series Rim It Ass Licking Mint Spray (£ 15.99, Kinky.co.uk) – there is something for everyone!

Anal Penetration

You’re clean and lubed up, so now it’s time to play. Starting out small and working your way up in size is the best way to ensure that your experience is as enjoyable as possible. Many people prefer to start with anal masturbation, which allows them to experiment with the sensation of anal penetration without the pressure of performing in front of their partner. If you feel more comfortable starting solo, don’t be afraid to. Anal toys are an ideal way to introduce yourself to penetration. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes, but the majority are smaller than your average penis or vibrator, and are tapered to make insertion easy. Butt plugs and anal beads are the best toys for anal virgins.

The Finger Rimmer Set (£ 9.99, Kinky.co.uk) is great for beginners looking to work their way up. The set contains three plugs; starting with small and going bigger when you’re ready for more. These plugs are soft, beautifully tapered, and have rings at the base for greater control. Even slipping the smallest plug in could prove challenging, so take your time – with patience, practice, and lashings of lube you’ll soon get used to inserting and wearing it. When you’ve mastered the smaller toys, moving onto something like the Remote Control Beaded Prober (£ 29.99, Kinky.co.uk) will allow you to slowly increase girth, length, and speed until you’re ready for penile or strap-on penetration.

Even after building your way up to anal sex, there’s still a risk of pain or injury. The receiving partner should always be in control of the depth, speed, and intensity of penetration. Discuss a safe word beforehand and always start slow and gentle. Spooning positions are great for beginners, they allow the receiving partner to control penetration without losing the sensation or intimacy. Once you’re both comfortable, you can try something a little kinkier, like doggy-style positions.

Beginner’s Guide to Getting Kinky in the Bedroom

Sex can sometimes get a little predictable. So why not spice it up with a little excitement, passion and heat. We all love to get a little kinky in the bedroom, but some of us are unsure how to approach the subject. The next time you’re both lying in bed, or snuggling on the sofa…or even on the way home from the shops – try asking her if she might like to try “something different”. Continue reading