How To Get Your Steam Sex Fantasy Fulfilled This Christmas

A Guide To Casual Sex

We all have fantasies that we would like to explore, and yet when it comes to sharing these intimate and kinky thoughts, we find ourselves worrying that what turns us on will potentially turn our partners off. It’s partly to do with respect and partly to do with etiquette – no matter how comfortable you may be with your partner, there is always the risk of hurting their feelings and offending them.

So, whether you’re hoping to suggest a festive themed role play or you want to invite Dance, Prancer and Vixen into bed for a Christmas fivesome, here are some things to consider when you’re suggesting something new sexually.

Pick Your Time

We are at our most vulnerable when we are naked and open, so this may not be the best time to suggest trying something new. This is a conversation that should be had over dinner, or while having a few drinks, and should be kept light and upbeat. Try to avoid accusing your partner and being negative – if you criticise your sex life, it can leave them feeling deflated and bad all around. If you’re looking to change something, say what you want and not what you don’t want. Be clear and honest and give your partner a chance to share their thoughts and preferences too.

Keep It Positive

Leading on from the point above – don’t complain! If you want to try something new, introduce it as a topic of general conversation. Talk about a sexy article you read (you could even read the article together and share ideas), or suggest you watch a porn movie together that highlights what you are looking for (faster pace, different positions, and so on). That way, you’re not attacking your partner, instead you are exploring new options together.

Make it clear you’re suggesting it because you trust them. You know you won’t be judged and they’ve made you feel so good about yourself, you feel you can truly open up and tell them anything.

Be Honest

The best way to let them know what you like is by showing and telling them. If she does something that really work for you, let her know so that she’ll continue doing it. Without direction, how’s your partner meant to know what turns you on? Guide their hands, their tongue, their lips, and show them what works for you. Tell her and caress her in a way that encourages her to keep doing what she’s doing. Then switch over, and let her guide you. It should be a process of discovery for both of you.

Compliments are Encouraging

 

Your partner wants to know that you still find them sexy and desired. If you want to spice things up, let them know how hot they are and how much you want them. Tell your lover that you’ve fantasised about them, and then run through the sexy scenario. If you’re being sincere, your partner will pick up on it and open up to the ideas you’re sharing with them. If your partner doesn’t take to the suggestion, let them know that it’s okay and encourage them to share a fantasy with you instead. Who knows what you’ll discover!

Don’t Fake It

 

If your partner suggests something that you’re not into; be honest. Pretending you are into something in order to avoid hurting their feelings will only lead to frustration and could have a lasting impact on your sex life. Being curious and testing the waters is fine, but if it does nothing for you – say it. You never know, you might be able to compromise and incorporate various aspects of each other’s fantasies into one kinky scene!

Don’t Pressure Your Partner

Sex is an intimate part of a relationship, which should be respected. When discussing your fantasies beforehand, agree to open up about what feels good and what they want and need. Exposing ourselves deserves proper etiquette – if you want to ask your partner to touch you in a certain way, suggest it or show them how you like to be touched. Don’t ask in a demanding way, not unless it has expressed that they enjoy being submissive.

Overall, exploring fantasies involves honesty, good communication, and trust. Right, off to get that Santa suit ready…

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