Five Reasons To Try Restraints

Sexy woman biting handcuffs on bed

Not easily roped into bondage? Knot sure how you feel about being tied down?

Bondage can be kinky, fun, and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. The act of restraining your partner can offer new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection – and this is just the tip of the iceberg! See what we mean; you won’t be able to restrain yourself…

1. It’s sexy and powerful

We all enjoy the driver’s seat from time to time, but it’s always incredible hot to see our partners’ taking command in the bedroom. We are more than happy to be on the receiving end of their domination!

For the dom, that look of helplessness can be extremely arousing, plus the decorative nature of the restraints themselves will tie in nicely.

2. Let’s spice things up…

No matter how kinky you are, the best of us can fall into a stagnant routine. There are many, many ways that we are wired for pleasure. We all have our kinks, so explore them to the full

3. It’ll create an intense emotional connection

Sharing new experiences with your partner will naturally bring you closer together. Being restarined involves a level of trust that you never though possible. Boundaries are pushed but never overstepped, so you’ll both connect on an entirely new emotional level.  One study even found that couples who partake in BDSM had a hormonal reaction that lead to the feeling of increased levels of intimacy after play. So, giving up control is an exchange worth making!

4. Experiment with your senses

Develop a sixth sense for superior sex play! When one sense is restricted, others are intensified. Through limiting movement, even the gentlest of touch will result in explosive sensations. Use this to your advantage and engage in some sexy sensation play.

5. Keep subs in their place for superior stimulation…

Don’t go anywhere; we’ve not finished with you yet! Once you’ve found that optimum position, a restrain will help you maintain it. Your play will be spot on, and your partner well and truly in their place!

Safety First

BDSM is never risk-free; the biggest concern when it comes to bondage is nerve damage and circulatory problems. If your partner reports tingling or a loss of sensation, or you spot a change in temperature or skin colour – stop the scene immediately. Check in with your partner often using safe words, and keep new subs in bondage for no more than 15-30 minutes at a time. Do not leave your bound sub unattended at any time.

As mentioned above, you really need to communicate beforehand. So before you start tying things up, you should discuss a safe word. Double check that you are both aware of the word and that when it is said the session is stopped completely.

Bondage is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communication, whether verbal or physical, is what bondage is about. You should take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that.

Trying Bondage for The First Time

Once you’ve covered the basics, it’s time to invest in your first bondage equipment. For first tie-ers, try a blindfold and wrist and ankle restraints – velcro cuffs, fluffy handcuffs or anything that feels soft and comfortable when tied around your own wrists or ankles is ideal. The Sinful Bondage Kit (£49.99, kinky.co.uk) contains everything needed for a night of BDSM-pleasure. These luxurious restraints have a quilted surface and come with adjustable fastenings for maximum comfort.

If the look of bondage gear is a little intimidating and heavy for your taste, there are plenty of sexy alternatives available. Bondage Tape (£9.50, kinky.co.uk) and Fetish Fantasy Furry Plush Cuffs (£12.50, kinky.co.uk) are soft but sturdy options.

Once you figure out which restraints best suit your needs, introduce them in a seductive and sexy way. You could bring out a few options and ask your partner to pick their favourite, or if you’re using scarfs, you could drape them over their body and slowly trail them towards their wrists and ankles.

Take It Up a Notch

Once you’ve had a few goes, you might want to try turning up the heat. Get a little kinky and try using ropes instead of handcuffs. Bondage ropes, such as Japanese Bondage Rope (£13.99, kinky.co.uk), come in a variety of colours and materials; beginners should opt for rope made from cotton or polyester as it’s softer. Avoid using regular rope as it can produce splinters, and is difficult to untie. For those who really want to show their partner the ropes, try exploring different kinds of knots – guides on how to tie different knots can be found online. Getting your partner to watch you as you intricately tie their wrists and ankles will have them quivering with excitement and anticipation.

Practice tying knots on a bed post or mannequin first. You should be feel comfortable and familiar with the knots before restraining your partner. When engaging in rope play, always make sure you have a pair of scissors nearby in case of an emergency.

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