A Look at Intermediate Toys

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So you’ve already experimented with some beginner fetish toys and are looking to take it to the next level? Well, you’ve come to the right place. From sex swings, to restraints and accessories – there’s a whole world of toys and tools to explore that cater to your desires, comfort zone, and lifestyle.

Safety First

When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s important to take extra care. Never make unrealistic demands of your body (or your partners), and always go for props and toys that you are both comfortable with and can ease yourself into slowly. Listen to your body and/or your partner and stop immediately if either of you experience any pain – this is when a safe word comes in handy. Always use plenty of lube, making sure it is compatible with your chosen toy.

Ball Gag

A Ball Gag is ideal for submissives who like to surrender their power of speech. It also serves as a very sexy visual for the dominant partner.

Ball gags aren’t designed to fit everyone, so start with a small ball gag that’s designed for beginners, like Fetish Fantasy Beginner’s Ball (£16.99, kinky.co.uk), and work your way up. The Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System (£19.99, kinky.co.uk) is perfect for beginners who are new to being gagged, yet versatile enough to satisfy a pro. You can start with a small gag and gradually build your way up to the largest of the three balls. Each ball is also fitted with holes to make breathing easier; so, it’ll put any nervous minds at ease. The sturdy black leather strap easily adjusts to fit most sizes, giving you instant control over when, and how often, your lover speaks.

When using the ball gag – slide it in gently, giving your partner a moment to adjust before you secure the straps. If your partner complains that their jaw is aching, it means you’ll need something smaller. Once the ball is in, they’ll be unable to talk, so you’ll need to pay extra attention to their body language to make sure they’re not in any pain or distress.

Door Swing

If you’re looking to increase mobility, encourage variety, and experiment with bondage – a door swing might be the perfect toy for you.

The Fetish Fantasy Door Swing (£35.99, kinky.co.uk) fits in your door jamb, between the frame and the door itself and creates reliable support no matter how heated things get. Enjoy positions you never thought were possible and do it all with ease, thanks to the padded seat cradle, comfortable stirrups and perfectly-placed leverage handles. Plus, it requires hardly any set up or expensive tools, and is extremely easy to hide away between uses, leaving no evidence of your high-flying adventures! It’s a great alternative to a full-on sex swing which requires set up time and permanent space.

Flogger

Explore your dominant or submissive side with a leather flogger. These won’t be as hard-core as whips or a rubber flogger, but instead will strike the perfect balance between pleasure and pain.

Floggers with narrow and few tails deliver a biting sensation, while those with thick and many tails produce thuddy impact. Suede floggers, like Fetish Fantasy Beaded Metal Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk), deliver manageable but noticeable thuds, so they’re a good choice for beginners; more experienced players who are after some pain might look into leather options like Hidden Desire Whip Xavier (£49.99, kinky.co.uk). The leather strands can be used to gently tickle and stimulate your partner’s body — or they can deliver a swift sting with just a flick of the wrist.

Nipple Clamps and Suckers

Nipples are often an overlooked source of pleasure that, when done correctly, can lead to sensational orgasms. Playing with nipple clamps not only results in increased sensitivity, it also delivers an incredible natural high, and provides a real taste of submissive satisfaction.

For those who want to try their hands at nipple play but aren’t quite ready to experiment with nipple torture, nipple suckers are great for beginners. The Vacuum Twist Suckers (£19.99, kinky.co.uk), are manual suction devices that are placed over the nipple and manipulated to suction out the air, drawing blood into the nipple and increasing sensitivity. Simply twist to adjust the suction and experiment with varying sensations. For better suction, apply a little water based lube on the rim of the sucker for an even better seal.

When you’re ready to take it up a notch, clover clamps are aimed at advanced nipple enthusiasts. The Fetish Fantasy Japanese Clover Clamps (£14.99, kinky.co.uk), are butterfly style nipple clamps fitted with textured rubber pads for extra comfort. They grip tightly to the nipple and are adjusted through gently tugging the string found at the base of the nipple clamps, which increases the tension and tightens the grip.

Spreader Bar

A spreader bar is a rod that spreads legs or arms and keeps them firmly apart. They provide resistance, enhance positions, and are easy to use.

The Leg Spreader Bar (£59.99, kinky.co.uk), is made from tubular steel that provides a spread of 24″. There’s a leather cuffs at each end that locks tight around the ankle, creating excellent restriction. Use this spreader standing up, lying down, or use it to lift your partner’s legs up during your kinky games.

Spreader bars are simple and easy to use and store. They are a great intermediate product if you are bored of lacy cuffs and fancy something a little more hardcore.

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