Kinkspiration – Part 2

Sexy schoolgirl getting spanked over a teacher's knee

Are you lacking a little imagination lately? Need a kinky clue?

So, your partner has been a little naughty? Are they in need of some punishment? A flogger will have your slave on their knees in no time! Compared with other impact play toys floggers are the most versatile tool in your (kinky) toolbox and provides a wide range of sensations with a minimal amount of risk.

Safety First

Although an erotic flogging is not bloody, flogging implements can open the surface of the skin. This can be done through cutting and scraping the skin, or by causing the weakened skin to break. For those new to flogging; rubber, braided, and wide-tailed floggers should be avoided, as they tend to scrape and bruise the skin. Only progress to these once you’re comfortable with the basics.

While cuts and bruises are occupational hazards and, for some, the desired outcome of a flogging session, bad technique can result in injuries to parts of the body that should not be involved, such as the eyes, the spine, and internal organs. Damage to these areas can be serious, and even life-threatening. To minimise the risks; the ‘top’ needs to keep in control at all times, and resist the temptation of getting lost in the moment. If you’re flogging your partner’s butt, it’s easy to lay a thick blanket over the kidney and tailbone area for added protection in case of an accident. And remember, practice makes perfect! Practice your aim and technique before you hit your partner with the hard sell.

If you are using restraints for your scene, please keep an eye out for indications that there may be a circulatory problem. If your partner reports tingling or a loss of sensation, or you spot a change in temperature or skin colour – stop the scene immediately. Check in with your partner often using safe words and safe signals.

Communication is key

As mentioned above, you really need to communicate beforehand. So, before you grab the flogger you should discuss a safe word. Double check that you are both aware of the word and that when it is said the session is stopped completely.

BDSM is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communication, whether verbal or physical, is what BDSM is all about. You should take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that.

Types of Flogger

A flogger is comprised of a handle with many strands of material attached to create the business end of the whip. There are two types of sensations associated with spanking; ‘stingy’ and ‘thuddy’. A sting is felt on the surface of the skin, while a thud is a much deeper pain. Determine which sensation you and your partner want to experiment with before purchasing your flogger. If your partner wants to be on the receiving end of a thud – go for a wide flogger and/or a flogger with more tails. A light flogger, with fewer tails, will deliver a satisfying sting. Looking for something gentle to begin with? Opt for a flogger with soft tails, like the Fetish Fantasy Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk), which is gentle on the skin and great for sensation play.

Balanced Flogger

These are designed with handles that counteract the weight of the tails, putting less strain on the wrist. This is a toy for those who take their flogging seriously!

We recommend: Brutal Love Kiotos (£54.99, kinky.co.uk)

Braided/Knotted Flogger

A toy for the more experienced spankers – a braided flogger will add a satisfying sting and is guaranteed to intensify your impact play.

Cat O’ Nine Tails

Typically, a cat o’ nine tails has fewer tails than other floggers, which can usually be counted at a glance. For this reason they are particularly stingy.

Looking to try a Cat O’ Nine Tails without too much scratch? The Fetish Fantasy Fancy Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk) has fewer tails than your average flogger, but the tails are made of suede for a weaker sting.

Starting Out

Building up to the experience is important, as few enjoy being spanked and whipped when they’re not in the mood. For some, an important part of the build-up is to introduce the toy as part of the foreplay; slithering the tails along their pleasure spots, holding the whip near their face and allowing them to smell it, kiss it, and so forth. For others, the act of being put in restraints will get them in the mood. If you are putting wrist restraints on your partner, do so slowly; the anticipation is part of the fun!

Begin slowly and lightly, and build your way up to greater intensities as you become comfortable. Start gently and increase the intensity of the strokes as endorphin levels rise. As a general rule, it takes 15-20 minutes for endorphin levels in the body to increase. Another tell-tale sign is to keep an eye on the skin; most skin exhibits redness when it is warmed up to the point where harder strokes may be done. Discuss you pattern of strokes and rhythm beforehand, to establish what you and your partner want from this experience.

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