A Beginner’s Guide to Spanking and Flogging

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It’s easy to see why spanking and flanking has become such a hit. It can take you on a journey of sensations from warm and gentle to thrilling spikes of pleasure and orgasmic release. Not only does it increase the blood flow to the nearby genitals and cause a spike in adrenaline, it also stimulates the nerve endings and increases sexual arousal.
If you like the idea of mixing pain and pleasure, make sure you have the right tools to whip your partner into a frenzy!

Safety First

As with any form of kink, there is a risk of injury. It is common for the bottom to acquire bruises from spanking and flogging, but this is nothing to be concerned about. Stick to more muscular or fatty areas of the body, such as the buttocks and upper thighs. Keep floggers and whips away from the face and eyes. To limit swelling and reduce pain, apply an ice pack or a cool moisturiser, like aloe vera gel, to the area for around 30 minutes after the scene has ended. Continue to do this a few times a day until the swelling has completely gone. If the bruises have not vanished after four weeks, make an appointment with your GP to check that you haven’t strained or damaged the muscles.

There is also the risk of the skin breaking, especially when using canes, whips and other long range implements. Don’t play if you have taken blood thinning medication, including Warfarin or Aspirin. Keep a first aid kit nearby with antibacterial cleaner and plasters, and if deep cuts occur, stop immediately.

When trying any kind of BDSM play for the first time, it is important to pick a safe word. A word that both of you agree on that won’t accidentally slip out during the fun. It’s worth agreeing too that once this safe word has been used, the session is over.

Spanking

Spanking is when a hand or paddle is slapped against the bottom, producing a sore thud against the skin. Erotic spanking can be enjoyed as part of role play, during intercourse, or as part of a punishment in a BDSM scenario.

Remember that foreplay is key – not only will it get the bum nice and ready for what’s coming, but it will also drive your partner crazy with anticipation! Start by gently massage the area in a circular motion and squeeze the skin to increase blood flow. Then try some light swats with the palm of your hand until the area is a rosy pink colour; this means the bum is ready for a firmer spanking. You can always pro-long the foreplay by rubbing and caressing the area after each swat, the combination of sensations will intensify the situation and drive your partner wild.

For beginners, we recommend that you use your hands first. This gives you the opportunity to control your strength and stay aware of how hard you are spanking. Cup your hand slightly, with your fingers together and spank lightly in an upward motion. Once you’ve become comfortable with the spanking, play with pressures and rhythms to see what your partner does and doesn’t enjoy.

If you want to take spanking even further, invest in a paddle. This will allow a greater range of movement and the different texture will give you some unique sensations too. Only move on to these when both of you feel ready. Always take the time to check that you are both comfortable with what’s going on and that you remember your keywords.

We recommend: Leather Paddle (£29.99, kinky.co.uk) and Sportsheets Leather Paddle with Fur Side (£29.99, kinky.co.uk).

Flogging

Floggers consist of strands of leather, or other materials, called falls. The falls are attached to a firm handle, which are often wrapped in leather for easier gripping. Compared to other impact play toys, the flogger has the most options of any non-electric tool in the kinky toolbox, and they provide a wide range of sensation with a minimal amount of risk.

Start with a flogger made of soft materials with thick tails. As with most sexual experiences, it is best to begin slowly and lightly, progressing to greater intensities as you become comfortable. Start by gently running the tails over the skin to get your partner accustomed to the feel of a flogger. Then start flogging by swinging the whip in a figure of eight. Let it begin softly, and build as endorphin levels rise to stronger strokes. As a general rule, it takes 15-20 minutes for endorphin levels in the body to increase. Another tell-tale sign is to keep an eye on the skin; most skin exhibits redness when it is warmed up to the point where harder strokes may be done. Experiment with different proximities to your partner, pressure, and rhythms to figure out the best way to use it.

We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk) and Leather Flogger with Wooden Handle (£34.99, kinky.co.uk).

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