A Guide To Flogging

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Flogging is form of BDSM involving dominance, submission and often bondage. It consists of one person, known as the ‘bottom’, being struck by another person, known as the ‘top’. Due to its popularity, there are plenty of specialised implements available including; floggers, whips, rods, switches, the cat o’ nine tails and the sjambok. For those who are looking to get a little kinky in the bedroom, here are a few things to consider.

Safety Issues

Although an erotic flogging is rarely bloody, many flogging implements can open the surface of the skin, either by cutting or scraping or by causing the weakened skin to break. For those new to flogging; avoid thin whips such as bullwhips and tightly braided cats, which are likely to cut. Rubber floggers, leather cats and wide-tailed floggers should also be avoided, as they tend to scrape and bruise the skin. Only progress to these once you are comfortable with the basics.

While cuts and bruises are occupational hazards and, for some, the desired outcome of a flogging session, bad technique can result in injuries to parts of the body that should not be involved, such as the eyes, the spine, and internal organs. Damage to these areas can be serious, and even life-threatening. To minimalise the risks; the ‘top’ needs to keep in control at all times, and resist the temptation of getting lost in the moment. Furthermore, as with all forms of BDSM, a safe word should be established.

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Flogger: The Tool

Most toys used for flogging can be purchased at most sex shops, or online. The toy you choose is up to you, although many choose a flogger as they provide a wide range of sensation with a minimal amount of risk. A flogger is comprised of a handle with many strands of material attached to create the business end of the whip. They can be made of almost any material, but many start out with a flogger made of light suede as it’s a little gentle on the skin. You can always buy bigger nastier floggers once you and your partner know what you are doing. If possible, when buying a flogger, insist on testing each model you are considering on a bare part of your own body such as your leg or arm.

Starting Out

Building up to the experience is important, as few enjoy being smacked and whipped when they’re not in the mood. For some, an important part of build-up is the smell and feel of the tool; for such a person, at various points before and during your session you should hold the whip near your partners face and allow him or her to smell it, kiss it, and so forth. For others, the act of being put in restraints will get them in the mood; if you are putting wrist restraints on your partner, do so slowly. The anticipation is part of the fun.

As with most sexual experiences, it is best to begin slowly and lightly, progressing to greater intensities as you become comfortable. Let it begin softly, and build as endorphin levels rise to stronger strokes. As a general rule, it takes 15-20 minutes for endorphin levels in the body to increase. Another tell-tale sign is to keep an eye on the skin; most skin exhibits redness when it is warmed up to the point where harder strokes may be done.

Varying Sensations

Most will take a longer, more intense, and more enjoyable flogging if sensations are varied during the course of it. Stop occasionally during your session, and run something along the area that has been flogged; fur mitten, silk scarf, your fingers and so forth. Avoid striking in the same place every time, as this will sting more than cause pleasure. Of course, if your partner enjoys a bit of pain – they may want you to strike in the same place. Discuss you pattern of strokes and rhythm beforehand, to establish what you and your partner want from this experience.

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If your partners back becomes too hot during the session (establishing a serious of safe words will help convey your partner’s needs), it helps to have a water-spray bottle or ice cubes nearby, to cool them down during the break.

When the session is over, it can be very comforting for your partner if you rub cream or lotion on to the area that was struck, to cover them in a sheet, or to hug or hold them. Again, discuss your partner’s needs. When starting out, it is best to make a rough plan of events – that way you both know what will happen, and when. This will prevent any nasty surprises and will ensure that you both get exactly what you want out of the experience. Happy flogging!

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