Going Solo: Getting Started with Anal Masturbation

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When you’ve tried bondage, mummification and edging, what’s left to do in bed? How about a little anal play? Anal masturbation is a difficult thing to ease into for many people, but it is a popular BDSM activity that can be pleasurable for either sex.

For both men and women, the anus is a sensitive area. For women, it can sometimes stimulate the G-spot through the vaginal walls. Orgasms are possible through anal penetration for women, but usually, it is just another activity that feels good.

For men, immense pleasure can be found in the prostate – one study found that the male orgasm is 33% more powerful when the prostate is stimulated.

Does Everyone Enjoy Anal Stimulation?

Anal stimulation isn’t for everyone whether it’s fingering, a penis, playing with a safe toy or even just stimulating around the anus. We are all equipped with nerve endings that allow us to enjoy anal stimulation of all types. Sexuality may differ, but biology doesn’t.

However, you may simply not be into the idea of anal play. Nevertheless, you won’t know if you might like it unless you try it, so we suggest you give anal masturbation a try.

Practicing solo anal play gives you the chance to be both the giver and the receiver, which is super helpful when you add another person to the mix.

Preparing for Solo Anal Play

It goes without saying that hygiene is important. It is important to shower and clean out the anus beforehand. Through washing beforehand, it reduces the risk that germs will spread, it limits unpleasant smells and tastes, and it helps dispel any fears about hygiene and cleanliness.

If you want a thorough clean you can use an Anal Douche (£11.99, kinky.co.uk) – otherwise, a thorough shower will do the job.

The anus is not self-lubricating, which can lead to tiny tears, so plenty of lube is needed. Lube will reduce friction and will make the experience far more pleasurable.

There’s a variety of anal lubes available that are formulated for added comfort – ANAL SLIX (£12.99, kinky.co.uk) is a super slick, smooth and long-lasting anal lube that’s perfect for beginners.

If you’re tense, it will literally make it harder for you to enjoy anal masturbation. So, take a deep breath and let the tension out of your body. It may help to relax your throat as this can also relax muscles in your butt. Start off with some self-pleasure, and take your time with it. Raise some erotic heat before you add anal play.

Positions and Techniques

Get some lubricant on your fingers and massage around the outside of your anus. Try doing a lighter touch, and then add a little more pressure. See how it feels to focus on just one spot or trace circles around the entire opening. Are there places that feel more sensitive? Are there places that it feels better to touch?

Place your fingertip over the opening and take a deep breath. Can you feel the anus expand and soften as you inhale? Can you feel it contract as you exhale? Not everyone can so don’t worry if you don’t. It’ll usually happen with some practice. If you can feel the anus relax as you inhale and squeeze as you exhale, you’ve discovered one of the best ways to make anal penetration easier: deep, slow breathing.

When you’re ready to try penetration, you can use the same moves that you’d do with your partner. There are plenty of anal toys to choose from, although many prefer to start off with a finger. Remember to go slow and focus on pleasure. If something doesn’t feel good or if you need to back off, no problem. You can always come back to this in a little bit.

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