Getting Kinky in the Bedroom!

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It happens to almost everyone…hitting a sexual slump that is. Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong with you or your partner, it’s simply time to shake things up a little and break out of your flat sex routine. Believe-it-or-not, despite the success of 50 Shades of Grey, a lot of women don’t know how to approach the subject of kink in the bedroom. You’d be surprised how many girls fantasise about getting dirty, but are probably too shy to tell you. Why not ask your girl if she’d like to try something different this evening? Here’s a few suggestions…

Nibble away

Kissing, nibbling, and gentle biting – it’s all good! Start with her neck, using your hands to caress her body. Slowly make your way down to her breasts and be gentle here. Sucking or gently nibbling her nipples will work wonders. If she wants you to bite, she’ll pull your head down or moan the words.

Bite your way down to her thighs. When you get to her legs, keep the biting tender as the inner thighs are a highly sensitive area. Tease this are for a little while and then flip her around for an extra treat. Not many of us know this, but a woman’s back is very sensitive. If you get your mouth back there and start kissing, nibbling, and sucking….you may just drive her wild!

Play with her hair

Grabbing at you partner’s hair can really intensify the moment. If you do it the wrong way though, the moment will end pretty quickly. When you hold her hair, hold it by its roots and gently pull her head back as you kiss her neck and make your way towards her chest. You could also try holding on to her hair when you penetrate her and release a little when you’re going out. Don’t be too rough though, and always pay attention to her body language and her moans and groans. If she seems uncomfortable, stop immediately.

That choking feeling

There are women that thoroughly enjoy being choked while making love. Why? Choking can slightly cut off the circulation to the brain and subsequently heightens pleasure. Just to clarify, we are not recommending erotic asphyxiation, where a partner is choked until they pass out. Instead, put a hand around her neck while you’re penetrating and gage her reaction. If she’s eager, keep your hand around her neck while gently kissing her lips and penetrating her. Choking her when she’s about to reach orgasm will also heighten the experience for her.

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Be the boss

Indulging in kinky games is always fun. With a few props, such as whips and handcuffs, you can take control and have her begging for more. Start by aggressively removing her clothes, but keeping your clothes on. Restrain her, turn her on with your fingers and your tongue, and then ask her if she wants you. If she says yes, slowly undress in front of her – the anticipation will drive her crazy.

Your partner may join in with the game and whisper no. If this is the case, undo your pants, rub your penis around her vagina and repeat the question. If she keeps saying no in a teasing way, play with her a little more – kiss her breasts, bit her neck and keep asking her. By this time, she will want you more than ever and will quivering with eagerness.

Anal Sex

Anal isn’t for everyone, but some have yet to venture into this unknown territory due to the negative stigma attached to it. Anal can be fantastic, and both partners can get intense pleasure from it. The key is starting slow and giving it a few short, low-pressure trial runs before going the whole way. The first few times can be painful, so carefulness and patience is key.
Instead of going straight for doggy-style anal, why not start by spooning? This position is slow and intimate, and will let you both ease your way in to it. It’s crucial that anal is pleasurable for both of you. If it’s too much; stop and try again if and when she’s ready.

Once you’re both comfortable and it is more pleasure than pain, you can graduate to the kinky doggy-style position and experiment with depth, rhythm and speed. Experiment with each other; try things you’ve never done before and have as fun much as possible.

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