How to Get and Maintain a Strong Erection

Young attractive girl after waking up in bed, looking with surprise erection her boyfriend who still sleeps covered with a sheet.

It’s the question we all want answered – how do you increase the size, strength and stamina of your erections?

Getting and maintaining a good erection is important for your confidence, as well as sexual well-being. Having a hard time keeping it up? Here are tips to make it last longer.

Be Stress Free

The most important organ in your body is not your penis but your brain. A lot of people fail to get an erection because they are too anxious or nervous when the moment arrives, even if they’re totally healthy. We view sex as goal-orientated, where erections and orgasms are the be all and end all of our sex lives. Not only are these expectations hard to live up to, but they work against the very nature of what sex is: an immense pleasure enjoyed by two people.

There is a lot people can do to work towards managing their anxiety around sexual performance. From cutting out life stressors to regular breathing exercises to mindfulness techniques – there are plenty of online articles which list techniques that can help decrease anxiety, and promote calmness and confidence. Experiment with a few different methods until you find the one that works best for you.

Try Some Kegel Exercises

Think Kegels are for girls? Think again! Kegels can strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle, which helps gain better control of your bladder as well as improve your sex life. Pelvic floor exercise involves squeezing and releasing the same muscle you would use to top peeing mid-stream. Clench for 10 seconds and then release. Over time it builds strength and tone, enhancing sexual function.

Don’t Skip the Foreplay

Foreplay is just as important as the main event. Taking the time to let things heat up can be the key to satisfaction as it helps prepare both mind and body for sex. So, take your time and indulge in activities like kissing, mutual masturbation, sensation play, and so on. You’ll thank us later!

Wear (Special) Condoms

Certain condoms contain benzocaine – a mild anesthetic that will reduce your sensitivity, prolong your erection, and delay your climax. Condoms such as Durex Extended Pleasure (£12.99, kinky.co.uk), contain a small amount of benzocaine that delays your climax so you can both enjoy that intimate time together for longer. Although it shouldn’t affect your partner, they should still pay attention to any reduction in their own pleasure as climax control condoms can occasionally reduce women’s sensitivity.

Alternatively, there are several extra thick condoms that can decrease sensitivity and enable you to last longer. We recommend: Pasante Extra Condoms (£4.99, kinky.co.uk) and Durex Extra Safe Condoms (£12.99, kinky.co.uk).

Delay Sprays and Creams

If you want something to make an instant impact on your sex life, look no further. Delay sprays and creams increase stamina, prolong erections, and intensify orgasms. They are designed to be quickly absorbed by the skin and most can be applied immediately before sex.

We recommend: Max Control Male Sex Prolong Spray (£12.99, kinky.co.uk) and Bathmate Control Prolonger (£22.99, kinky.co.uk).

Wear a Cock Ring

Cock rings trap blood inside the penis and creates a ‘super erection’, ensuring you remain rock solid for longer. This delays ejaculation and heightens sensitivity. If you have diabetes, any type of nerve or blood disorders, or are taking blood thinning medication, you should discuss using a cock ring with your GP or nurse beforehand. If you suffer from any serious erectile problems, a cock ring should not be used to try to ‘cure’ the problem. Although it might help you to maintain an erection, in cases where there could be an underlying issue it is essential to seek medical advice.

There are many different cock rings out there to choose from – they come in numerous shapes, sizes, and materials, so which one is the right one for you? To begin with, we recommend a simple ring made from a flexible material like silicone or rubber; the Colt 3 Ring Set (£11.99, kinky.co.uk) and Julian’s Stud Ring (£4.95, kinky.co.uk) are comfortable, easy to use, and body safe.

Try a Penis Pump

Penis pumps, often referred to as Vacuum Constriction Devices (VCD) are external devices that are designed to increase the blood flow to your intimate area, stimulating instant growth, increasing sensitivity, and prolonging your erection. What’s not to love?

There are a variety of pumps available, but we recommend starting off with a hand trigger pump which is the easiest type to use but still generates a strong suction. Some pumps, such as the Pump Worx Digital Power Pump (£69.99, kinky.co.uk), comes with an LED digital gauge attached that lets you know the pressure of the pumping chamber, allowing you to monitor your progress and stay in control.

As with all aspects of kink, if you experience any pain, notice any discolouration or loss of sensation – stop immediately. If you notice any blisters, red spots or reddening around the area, rest for at least 24 hours before using the pump again. The results are fantastic but overpumping can have the opposite effect. It can desensitise the area, damage tissue, and even affect circulation. Remember; a little pumping goes a long way!

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