The Do’s and Don’ts of Setting The Mood

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Anyone up for a little weekend romance?

When it comes to relationships, sex can end up taking the backseat – especially when kids, work, and bills come into play. Well, it’s time to reignite the passion! Adding sex appeal to your room is one of the simplest ways to get you and your partner in the mood for some fun.

After a long hard work week, you may need to put a little effort into getting in sexy relaxation mode, and here’s how to do it.

Time for a Clean Out?

There’s nothing quite as sexy as clutter…said no one ever!

Do throw, sell or give away any unwanted items, and box-up anything you can’t part with. Creating more space creates the potential to have sex on (or against) new objects and try new positions. Now that’s sexy.

Children are an important and fantastic part of our lives. However, you also need your own sensual space; free of kids toys, bottles, and clothes. Do relocate any of your children’s items and claim back your personal space. If that’s not reason enough, stepping on a piece of lego or a small toy car is a sure way to kill the mood.

Don’t fill your room with more toys and accessories. Resist the urge to buy everything suggested in this post – a few simple changes and purchases will make all the difference.

Sensual Sights

Do use candles or fairy lights to set the mood. Not only does it feel romantic, but the glow of soft lighting is an easy way to flatter your body and give you a confidence boost. For added pleasure: use a massage oil candle, and you can use the melted oil as a warm body balm to really get things heated up.

If you opt for candles, don’t leave them burning after you get it on. Busting out the fire extinguisher to put out the flames is sure to ruin your night.

Scents Are Important Too

Talking of candles; certain scents like vanilla and peppermint are said to help create a sexy mood and put a zing into your sex life. If you can’t get a hold of candles, incense sticks, and massage oils, such as Kissable Massage Oil Tropical Tease (£14.99, kinky.co.uk), work just as well. Don’t settle on the first/cheapest candle/oil available. Do experiment with different scents until you find the one that you both like.

Tasty Delights

Do experiment with flavours. If you’re not sure where to begin, try harnessing the aphrodisiac power of chocolate by drizzling your partner with Body Paint Chocolate Mousse (£9.99, kinky.co.uk), and have fun licking it off.

Don’t put any food in your vagina or around your vulva. Melting the average Mars Bar for use in foreplay could lead to an unwanted, and un-sexy, infection.

Colours Can Be Key

If your room is full of dark and/or black furniture it can have a serious impact on your emotions, and your sex drive.

The colour red is said to amp up the romance, boost energy, and add some spice to your bedroom. Don’t repaint the bedroom, but do add a red candle, some red cushions, or maybe even some Plush Red Cuffs (£12.50, kinky.co.uk) – they’re guaranteed to make an impact!

Textures can also help you get in the mood. Add a faux fur throw during winter for some extra warmth and a bit of magic. Suede and silk will also feel amazing on skin – the more soft and sensual the textures, the more sensual the experience.

All Dressed Up

Do wear something that makes you feel confident and sexy. Not sure which lingerie style is right for you? A chemise is loose fitting, flirty, and flatters most body types. This Red Lace Chemise (£19.99, kinky.co.uk) will have his heart racing.

Don’t force yourself into something so tight and uncomfortable you can’t breathe, no matter how sexy it looks. It’s about both of you having a fun and sexy time…
Time for Some Fun and Games?

Do experiment with bedroom toys and games to spice up your relationship and have some playful fun. Fifty Ways to Tease Your Love (£14.99, kinky.co.uk) offers endless inspiration, but feel free to invent your own games too!

When introducing new games or toys into your sex life, don’t rush it. The main aim is to communicate, connect, and explore each other in new ways.

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