Establishing and Communicating Limits

Discovering what your BDSM limits are is an important part of being the kink scene.

“Limits” refers to an acceptable range of play for an individual and is something that should be discussed when negotiating a scene. It ensures that all the rights, needs, and requirements are clearly understood. Some decide to write down their limits in the shape of a contract, which assures that both partners fully understand the limitations and acceptable forms of play. Others prefer to simply discuss and plan the scene in detail beforehand. Before entering into any relationship, it is important to clearly communicate and listen to each other carefully.

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Mummification: A Beginners’ Guide

Mummification is not just a source of folklore and horror movies. Within a BDSM and bondage context, mummification is a specialised form of bondage in which an individual is completely immobilised. They can be wrapped in a variety of materials, from cling film to body bags to the more traditional bandages. Some enjoy being left for a period of time in a state of sensory deprivation, while others enjoy being sensually stimulated in their state of bondage – it really depends on the preferences of the individual.

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A Guide To Crossdressing

Cross-dressing is both easy and complex at the same time. You can go as minimal or as intense as you want – it all depends on what makes you feel good and comfortable. Cross-dressing can be as simple as slipping on a pair of silky underwear. On the other hand, you can go all out and shave your body, get your makeup done, and hit the town. There really is no right or wrong.

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Sub Drop – a Guide

Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is an emotional or physical state that a sub can experience after a BDSM scene. The symptoms and intensity vary from person to person, but can include fatigue, feeling emotionally raw, aches and pains, and depression. Of course, you don’t have to be hog-tied and whipped to feel sad after sex. One 2015 study found that nearly 46% of the 230 women surveyed felt feelings of tearfulness and anxiety after sex — which is known as “postcoital dysphoria” — at least once in their lives.

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The Right Way To Have Casual Sex

Casual sex comes in all shapes, flavours, sizes, and positions. While it can be great; casual sex does come with a warning. If you go in with unrealistic expectations or if casual hook-ups leave you feeling cheap and used (in a non-kinky sort of way), it has the potential to end badly. It can be a tricky maze to navigate, but with basic ground rules and the right approach you can master no-strings sex without getting tied up.

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How To Use Anal Beads

Anal beads are a great way for beginners to experience anal sex gradually and gently. They can be used alone for unique anal stimulation, during masturbation or intercourse. Anal beads generally consist of multiple spheres or balls attached together. Most anal beads start off small and gradually get larger as you move down the chain, allowing you to enjoy more and more length and girth as you become more comfortable. The great thing about using anal beads: they feel good on the way in and on the way out!

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