Places to Use a Clitoral Vibrator (Besides Your Clit)

Clitoral vibrators can really do magic for your sex play; they’re great during masturbation as they add an extra element of stimulation, but they’re also a fun form of foreplay. They come in various designs and range in speeds, including small vibrators, large wands, and toys designed to deliver suction-like sensations – so there’s something for everyone!

Don’t let the name fool you though, although they deliver mind-blowing stimulation to the clit, they can also be used on other parts of the body for added pleasure. Not sure where to start? We have some suggestions!

All Over the Vulva

So, technically this includes the clitoris. But when we think of the clitoris, we often forget that there’s more to it than that little rosebud-shaped knob at the apex of our labia. In reality, that little love button is only the tip of a surprisingly complex iceberg called the internal clitoris, which extends down the labia on both sides and contains over 8000 nerve endings.

Tap into this pleasure zone by taking a small vibe like the Ro 120mm Bullet (£24.99, kinky.co.uk) and running it down either side of the labia. Alternatively, use a larger wand like the Splendor Rabbit (£39.99, kinky.co.uk) by gently pressing it against the pubic bone. Take the time to explore and find the pressure, speed, and movements that works best for you.

On the Nipples

If you and your partner are new to nipple stimulation, don’t limit yourself to copping a quick feel! Depending on your preferred methods of stimulation, you might find that a clitoral vibrator hits the spot. A vibrator that surrounds the clitoris, like the Satisfyer Penguin Vibrator (£59.99, kinky.co.uk) could be just as fun around a nipple.

A simple, soft vibrator like the Aurora Bodywand Massager (£69.99, kinky.co.uk) can be great for body massage – including the nipples. Try it out on the lowest setting first, then work your way up. Trace the vibrator in circles all around your breasts and then play with different strokes and rhythms.

On Your Partner

Sex toys don’t have to be something you use alone. They’re a fantastic way to enhance your foreplay together and amp up the intensity in the bedroom! You can use the vibrations to tease and tantalise your partner and create some seriously intense feelings that will really turn up the heat. They can be used as an addition to oral sex or they can replace your hands altogether!

While giving him a blowjob, you could place a simple vibrator, like the Velvet Touch Vibrator (£11.99, kinky.co.uk) against your cheek so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating for a unique sensation.

Sensitivity varies from person to person but often, the most sensitive part of the penis is around the head and the underside of the shaft. So, experiment by running the vibrator along the tip of the penis, their perineum (the spot behind the scrotum) or lightly running it along the testicles. He’ll thank you for it!

Clitoral vibrators really are a diverse toy that can add intense vibrations and a lot of fun to foreplay, masturbation, and sex. It’s all about experimenting and keeping an open mind – you will soon learn how to use your vibrator in a way that works for both you and your partner.

4 Reasons You Should Try Pussy and Clitoral Pumps

To pump or not to pump? That is the question!

Pumps are external devices that are designed to increase the blood flow to your intimate areas, stimulating instant growth, increasing sensitivity, and delivering superior stimulation. Not sucked in? Here are a few more reasons to convince you: Continue reading

Five Reasons You Should Try Prostate Play

Put off by prostate massage? Well, you’re not alone…

The prostate is a walnut sized, semen-storing gland located at the root of the penis. The P-spot, also sometimes known as the male G-spot, is the area of the prostate that can be felt and stimulated. Research suggests that regular prostate massage reduces the risk of prostatitis, prostate cancer, symptoms of erectile dysfunction, and genital pain. Continue reading

Top 5 BDSM Toys Guaranteed to Spice Things Up

Sex toys are synonymous with the world of BDSM. They spice up our play sessions and offer endless avenues of pleasure and pain. For those who are new to BDSM, the amount of equipment on offer can be overwhelming at first, but they are vital to your enjoyment. Using toys in combination with BDSM play is guaranteed to intensify your session. 

Safety First

When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s important to take extra care. Never make unrealistic demands of your body (or your partners), and always go for props and toys that you are both comfortable with and can ease yourself into slowly. Listen to your body and/or your partner and stop immediately if either of you experience any pain – this is when a safe word comes in handy. Always use plenty of lube, making sure it’s compatible with your chosen toy.

1) (Light) Bondage

Restraints are the first thing which comes to mind when enticing people to explore the world of BDSM. The act of restraining your partner can offer new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection. If you’ve decided you want to try bondage, you may feel a bit lost in terms of what restraints would be perfect for you and your partner.
Beginners to the BDSM world should focus on restraints that have safety precautions in place to begin with. Most handcuffs come with safety release, like the Furry Fun Cuffs (£12.50, kinky.co.uk). If you opt for rope, ties, leather cuffs etc., always keep medical shears nearby (and within reach).

2) Blindfolds

Recent research has concluded that most men get turned on by what they see, which is why the percentage of men who enjoy voyeurism is almost three times more than that of women. On the other hand, women are most aroused by sensual touch. It’s the feeling of intimacy that gets women in the mood – a massage, gentle all over caressing, and the feeling of silk on the skin are just some examples. Introducing a blindfold to the bedroom is often a win-win situation. He gets to see her in all her glory, and her senses are heightened, allowing her to focus on being intimately touched.

Sensory deprivation is a significant part of BDSM play. Removing one sense heightens the others, allowing you to explore scenarios through means you usually wouldn’t. Additionally, blindfolds can be quickly removed in case of emergency and there are no pain implications to wearing one, so they serve as a good starting item for a beginner who wants to experience sensory deprivation. There’s a hundred items lying around your house that can be doubled as a blindfold. A pair of tights, a scarf, a tie. Or why not opt for an inexpensive blindfold, such as the Tease and Please blindfold (£4.99, kinky.co.uk), and turn it up a notch?

3) Flogger

Explore your dominant or submissive side with a leather flogger. These won’t be as hard-core as whips or a rubber flogger, but instead will strike the perfect balance between pleasure and pain.

Floggers with narrow and few tails deliver a biting sensation, while those with thick and many tails produce thuddy impact. Suede floggers, like Fetish Fantasy Beaded Metal Flogger (£24.99, kinky.co.uk), deliver manageable but noticeable thuds, so they’re a good choice for beginners; more experienced players who are after some pain might look into leather options like Hidden Desire Whip Xavier (£49.99, kinky.co.uk). The leather strands can be used to gently tickle and stimulate your partner’s body (with a blindfold it can be part of sensory deprivation play) — or they can deliver a swift sting with just a flick of the wrist.

4) Nipple Clamps and Suckers

Nipples are often an overlooked source of pleasure that, when done correctly, can lead to sensational orgasms. Playing with nipple clamps not only results in increased sensitivity, it also delivers an incredible natural high, and provides a real taste of submissive satisfaction.

For those who want to try their hands at nipple play but aren’t quite ready to experiment with nipple torture, nipple suckers are great for beginners. The Vacuum Twist Suckers (£19.99, kinky.co.uk), are manual suction devices that are placed over the nipple and manipulated to suction out the air, drawing blood into the nipple and increasing sensitivity. Simply twist to adjust the suction and experiment with varying sensations. For better suction, apply a little water based lube on the rim of the sucker for an even better seal.

When you’re ready to take it up a notch, clover clamps are aimed at advanced nipple enthusiasts. The Fetish Fantasy Japanese Clover Clamps (£14.99, kinky.co.uk), are butterfly style nipple clamps fitted with textured rubber pads for extra comfort. They grip tightly to the nipple and are adjusted through gently tugging the string found at the base of the nipple clamps, which increases the tension and tightens the grip.

5) Anal Beads

Anal beads are a great way for beginners to experience anal sex gradually and gently. They can be used alone for unique anal stimulation, during masturbation or intercourse.

Anal beads generally consist of multiple spheres or balls attached together. Most anal beads start off small and gradually get larger as you move down the chain, allowing you to enjoy more and more length and girth as you become more comfortable. The great thing about using anal beads: they feel good on the way in and

How To Use a Double Ended Dildo

Fancy a dildo but don’t want to leave your partner out of the fun? 

There’s a double dildo for all desires: if you want to explore penetrative sex with a female partner (vagina to vagina), if you want to experiment with flexible rubber or jelly-like dildos on yourself (vagina to anal), and if you want to want to explore experimental vaginal and anal sex with a female or male partner (anal to anal/vagina). So, whether you’re looking to intensify your BDSM play with stainless steel devices, experiment with pegging, or simply want to enhance your sexual pleasure; a double dildo will give you that level of excitement and satisfaction, and much, much more! Continue reading

A Beginner’s Guide To Foot Fetish

Contrary to popular belief, most people don’t find feet repulsive. Quite the opposite, actually: Foot fetishism, which is having admiration for or sexual attraction to feet, is one of the most common fetishes out there. In a study of fetishes published in the International Journal of Impotence Research, feet and toes were the body parts most likely to be lusted after. Every detail about the foot can get an individual going. Most foot fetishists tend to be men who enjoy the smell or taste of feet and require some interaction with this part of the body to experience an orgasm. Continue reading

Long Distance Kink – Is it Possible?

Long-distance relationships are still relationships that require a different approach to develop the same connection and intimacy. Thanks to technology like Skype, Facetime and WhatsApp, long-distance BDSM play is entirely possible and can be very enjoyable! But like any long-distance relationship, a strong foundation needs to be established first.

After all, small problems can fester and later become big problems. So, if you can nip them in the bud early on, you have a much better chance in your long-distance romance.
In a long-distance BDSM relationship, the following concerns should be addressed as soon as possible: Continue reading

A Beginner’s Guide To Limits

“Limits” refers to an acceptable range of play for an individual, and is something that should be discussed when negotiating a scene. It ensures that all the rights, needs, and requirements are clearly understood. Some decide to write down their limits in the shape of a contract, which assures that both partners fully understand the limitations and acceptable forms of play. Others prefer to simply discuss and plan the scene in detail beforehand. Before entering into any relationship, it is important to clearly communicate and listen to each other carefully. Continue reading