A Beginner’s Guide To Squirting

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Women can come violently, rhythmically, enduringly…but abundantly?

Absolutely! Female ejaculation, or squirting, is everywhere in porn. Although pornography featuring female ejaculation has been banned in the UK, it is the third most searched for category in Australia and remains a point of curiosity.

It’s only in recent years that female ejaculation has become a culturally desirable addition to a lady’s sexual repertoire. And about time, too! Research suggests that around a third of women have experienced ‘female ejaculation’ during a sexual climax. So, if the whys and hows of squirting and female ejaculation are leaving you with a thirst that needs to be quenched, here’s a guide to help you embark on your very own orgasmic, and potentially very wet, adventure.

What is ‘Squirting’?

Firstly, female ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing. An ejaculation is the release of fluids, rather than the contracting of muscles and releasing of endorphins that accompany orgasms.

Previously, the fluids resulting from female ejaculation were often dismissed as urination during sex, leaving naturally talented squirters stressed and embarrassed. But we now know the liquid is closer to what’s secreted by the male prostate when stimulated, leading many to refer to the Skene’s glands (the glands responsible for the secretions) as ‘the female prostate’.

Originating in the Skene’s gland, the fluid is drained through the urethra and is expelled at the point of ejaculation. The Skene’s gland can only be stimulated through the G-spot, as it is situated directly above.

When it comes to squirting, some say they squirt out a teaspoon, others say a cupful, and some claim they squirt even more than that. Some women can squirt over and over, and some just squirt the once – it’s all normal!

For some women, it is possible, but for others, it’s not. Our bodies all function differently, and while scientists still don’t know the ins and outs of female ejaculation, we do know that when it comes to sexuality, there is not a lot of predictability and science to back it up. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try, so what are you waiting for?

1. Relaxation is a key aspect of squirting orgasms, so ensure you stay calm as you prepare. Create a calm and sexy environment; dim the lights, light candles, and play some music. Make sure to empty your bladder before you get started so that you are comfortable to let go when the time comes.

2. Foreplay is vital. Remember; the G-spot won’t even be enlarged or ready for stimulation if you’re not fully aroused. So, take your time getting in the mood. Fixate on your partner or favourite fantasy, grab a clitoral vibrator like the Tiffany Love Bullet (£24.99, kinky.co.uk) and have some fun.

3. Once you’re suitably aroused, it is time to lube up. The stimulation required for squirting is hard and fast, so a bit of lube on your finger or toy will prevent friction and ensure you get the most from the experience.

4. G-spot dildos and vibrators, like the Luminate Vibrator (£39.99, kinky.co.uk), are generally best for this sort of stimulation. They are curved and less flexible than other vibrators, which work well due to the Skene’s glands’ love of firm pressure. Find the G-spot with your fingers or ideally a toy coated with water-based lubricant, 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall.

5. Feeling the need to pee? You’re almost there! Instead of holding it in or clenching, relax and push outwards instead. It can take some time and a few goes to get it right, so don’t be disheartened if nothing happens on your first go.

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