A Beginner’s Guide To Gags

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A gag is specifically designed to muffle the submissive during BDSM play. Although there are many different types of gags, ball gags are by far the most popular. They have featured in numerous fetish scenes and films, becoming a staple of BDSM. Ball gags can be intimidating at first, but after trying it out many couples find it adds an exciting edge to their dom and sub play.

Safety First

The sub won’t be able to speak when they’re wearing a ball gag, so you will need to find a way for them to use their safeword during play. Non-verbal safe words can involve snapping fingers, having the sub hold a bell that they can ring or honking a bicycle horn when they want the scene to end. Discuss this with your partner beforehand, and double check that you are both aware of the sign/signal before you gag them.

Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead.
A gag does interfere with breathing, you never want to leave a gagged play partner unattended.  Avoid gagging your partner if they have a cold, an upset stomach, or are having difficulty breathing due to illness or an allergy. Gags can sometimes induce vomiting because it may trigger the gag reflex, so regularly check in on your partner. If they were to still be gaged when vomiting it could be fatal.

Finally, a gag shouldn’t be worn for more than 15 minutes at a time when starting out. Jaw muscles are less resilient and can become fatigued easily. As soon as it becomes painful, the safe signal should be used and the gag removed. As you become more experienced, you will be able to wear them for longer.

Choosing a Gag

There are many different types of gags to choose from. Here are the most popular and commonly found gags:

Ball Gags – a basic ball gag is a spherical shaped gag which is placed in the mouth behind the teeth and then strapped into place behind the head. We recommend: Ball Gag with Leather Strap (£22.99, kinky.co.uk).

Bit Gags – a cylindrical shaped gag made from rubber, leather or silicone worn similar to a horse’s cradle. Some bit gags will feature reigns for use in pony play. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Series Bit Gag (£19.99, kinky.co.uk).

Breathable Gags – perfect for beginners, there gags are hollow and can be found in either plastic, rubber or silicone. They are lightweight, comfortable, and come with holes cut out to allow for easy breathing. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag (£19.99, kinky.co.uk).

Inflatable Gags – ball gags aren’t designed to fit everyone, so these are fully adjustable for a custom fit. These start of small and are pumped in your sub’s mouth to the desired size. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Ball Gag (£29.99, kinky.co.uk).

Gags come in all kinds of materials depending on how you plan to use it! Waterproof gags that are made from plastic, silicone or metal are perfect for watersports. These materials can also be sterilised between uses so they can be used on multiple subs. Gags made from rubber, PVC, and leather are porous and should only be used on one person.
For those starting out, there’s the Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System (£19.99, kinky.co.uk). This training system allows you to start with a small gag and gradually build your way up to the largest of the three balls. These are designed for maximum comfort during wear without forcing the mouth or jaw open too much. Each ball is also fitted with holes to make breathing easier; so, it’ll put your partners’ mind at ease, while still teaching them the meaning of submission!

When using a gag – slide it in gently, giving your partner a moment to adjust before you secure the straps. If your partner complains that their jaw is aching, it means you’ll need something smaller. Once the gag is in, it won’t make your sub completely silent but they will be unable to talk, so you’ll need to pay extra attention to their body language to make sure they’re not in pain or distress.

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