Taking Sexy Pictures – A Kinky Guide

Sending a sexy photo, if it’s done right, can really spice up your relationship and get you both worked up and excited for the next time you see each other. There’s no need to get totally naked – be suggestive instead by sucking on a lollipop or simply sending a picture of your lips. Sometimes showing less is more. For those of you who aren’t totally body confident; you can use props, blankets, and clothing to cover the bits that you’re not yet comfortable showing. Show as much or as little as you like, just remember to keep it light-hearted and fun! Continue reading

Ten Surprisingly Common Fetishes

A sexual fetish can take many forms, but is usually the need or desire for an object, material, or body part in order to achieve an elevated state of arousal. For most, these kinks are things that enhance their sexual experience, but aren’t a necessity in order to reach a state of sexual satisfaction. What are some of the most popular sexual fetishes these days? Let’s take a look. Continue reading

Anal Sex – An Introduction

With over a third of Westerners having tried it, anal penetration is a kink that is becoming more popular than ever in the bedroom. Nevertheless, couples are still missing out on the joy of anal sex and the pleasure that’s experienced through anal penetration. When undertaken correctly, anal sex can really enhance your sex life. The anus is packed with nerve ending that are receptive to stimulation and can result in anal orgasms for both men and women. This introduction will walk you through anal preparation and penetration, helping you achieve an exciting and enjoyable anal sex life.

It Starts with Communication

Anal sex should never be introduced by trying to ‘sneaking it in’. If you’re intending to slip a finger, toy, or more inside your partner – they should be prepared and able to consent prior to the act. If you’re partner has no idea what you have in store for them, they are likely to tense up which is likely to result in pain, injuries, and no sex for a week (if you’re lucky).

Cleanliness is Important

When it comes to anal sex, one of the biggest turn offs is the thought of the mess that can occur post-penetration. However, a little preparation will ensure that you and your partner don’t experience any horrors. For anyone looking to experiment with anal sex, we recommend buying an Anal Douche. It’s a simple pump device that is filled with (cold) water and used to squirt water into the anus. This will loosen any debris and ensure your passage is clear. Douching takes a little getting used to, but it’s worth it – it can really enhance your anal play.

To keep things super clean, we recommend using condoms on yourself and on your toys. This is even more important if you plan on anal and vaginal penetration in one session. Anal to vaginal penetration, without switching condoms between sex acts, can result in her developing toxic shock syndrome.

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Don’t Forget the Lube

Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. You may be able to achieve penetration without lube, but it is likely to be painful, and the friction can cause internal injuries which may later become infected. To avoid such unpleasantness, always lubricate the anus, penises, toys, and fingers before attempting to penetrate. The market is full of anal lubes; from an ultra-thick long-lasting lube such as Anal Joy Lovin Lubricant (£ 10.00, Kinky.co.uk) to flavoured anal lubes such as Master Series Rim It Ass Licking Mint Spray (£ 15.99, Kinky.co.uk) – there is something for everyone!

Anal Penetration

You’re clean and lubed up, so now it’s time to play. Starting out small and working your way up in size is the best way to ensure that your experience is as enjoyable as possible. Many people prefer to start with anal masturbation, which allows them to experiment with the sensation of anal penetration without the pressure of performing in front of their partner. If you feel more comfortable starting solo, don’t be afraid to. Anal toys are an ideal way to introduce yourself to penetration. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes, but the majority are smaller than your average penis or vibrator, and are tapered to make insertion easy. Butt plugs and anal beads are the best toys for anal virgins.

The Finger Rimmer Set (£ 9.99, Kinky.co.uk) is great for beginners looking to work their way up. The set contains three plugs; starting with small and going bigger when you’re ready for more. These plugs are soft, beautifully tapered, and have rings at the base for greater control. Even slipping the smallest plug in could prove challenging, so take your time – with patience, practice, and lashings of lube you’ll soon get used to inserting and wearing it. When you’ve mastered the smaller toys, moving onto something like the Remote Control Beaded Prober (£ 29.99, Kinky.co.uk) will allow you to slowly increase girth, length, and speed until you’re ready for penile or strap-on penetration.

Even after building your way up to anal sex, there’s still a risk of pain or injury. The receiving partner should always be in control of the depth, speed, and intensity of penetration. Discuss a safe word beforehand and always start slow and gentle. Spooning positions are great for beginners, they allow the receiving partner to control penetration without losing the sensation or intimacy. Once you’re both comfortable, you can try something a little kinkier, like doggy-style positions.

The Kinky Guide to Butt Plugs!

Butt plugs are often varied according to the individual brand and manufacturer´s creative ideas. With the anal toy market constantly expanding, how do you choose the right toy? Firstly, how experienced are you? If you’re looking to purchase your first anal toy – don’t go for a butt plug that’s too wide, textured, or that vibrates. Continue reading